If you’ve just been dumped by your boyfriend for no apparent reason, you must be shocked and heartbroken. No doubt, your pillow is wet with tears every night as you try and figure out what went wrong. If you really love him and want to
This might be the last thing you want to hear, but you have to be logical about the matter. It’s not easy, but you need to reflect on the situation and work out what went wrong and, more importantly, why. As they say, ‘it takes two to tango’, and perhaps you did something wrong.
If you feel that you owe him an apology for something, by all means call to apologize. Do this is a nice, but controlled, way. Whatever you do, do not sound as though you are begging for reconciliation. This could push him away even further.
It is not uncommon for guys to get scared if things are getting a bit too serious. This often causes them to back out of relationships. He may just want some space and to be with his ‘boys’ for a while. Perhaps you were pressurizing him to make a long-term commitment. In this case, the best thing is to leave him alone for a few weeks.
A bit of reverse psychology won’t harm. Call your girlfriends and suggest a girls-only camping weekend. The grapevine will soon kick into gear and he’ll hear about it. The fact that you are quite happy to carry on having fun could very well make him very jealous.
When the time comes for the two of you to talk things out, meet somewhere where you can’t shout and scream at one another. A quiet coffee bar would be ideal because you will both be forced to stay calm. When he talks, don’t interrupt. Let him give his side of the story and then respond. You will have a good chance to get your ex back if you agree to compromise on important issues.
Ian Cruz Helps people fix relationships. You can read more tips on how to get your ex back here.
