If you have ended a relationship because your ex cheated on you, most often than not, a time will come when you will be tormented if you should still give that unfaithful ex of yours another chance in the game or not. It is not an easy decision, no matter how long it has been since you broke up,
What made you interested for a second chance? This is the most significant question that you have to consider. You have to catch on the real reason why your ex wants you again. Do you perceive any threat of infidelity coming your way again? Do you believe that your ex will stand on his/her word of being faithful to you and not let someone else be the apple of his/her when a sudden surge of coquetry passes by? Can he win you over by promising that this time around it will be for life?
Do you have the power to battle seduction and not to cheat again, when temptation is inviting you with open arms? Don’t be a sissy by not asking this question. Don’t be ashamed to ask. Don’t worry about hurting his/her feelings or putting him/her on the hot seat. Spare the pity. Your ex did not have any pity when he/she cheated on you in the first place. Be tough. It is your heart that you have to safeguard. You don’t want to go back to that miserable place of loneliness, hatred, pain and worthlessness. You don’t want to have red, puffy eyes, or be like a tornado with raging emotions, or locking yourself away from the world again. You have the right to ask. You need to know why everything will be different this time. What caused your ex to have a sudden change of heart? Will temptation prove not to be a nightmare-come-true anymore? It’s a practical question and your ex should be expecting it.
What’s the real problem with the marriage that led to the cheating in the first place? Just as you need to believe that your ex can resist temptation you also need to pinpoint the problem so that you can avoid it in the future. Resisting temptation is great but if you can remove the underlying reason the “other person” was so tempting to begin with it’s even better. Knowing why your ex cheated is half the battle in preventing a repeat performance.
Do you still love me? This is the paramount of all the questions, the foundation of your marriage. And to build a better bedrock, ask the same question to yourself as well. But if you know that you no longer have any feelings for each other, say, maybe you just want top keep the marriage to save yourselves from wagging tongues, then stop. This could cause more issues than what you already have. So ask yourselves what you still feel for each other. If you know that you love your ex still, and can feel deep in you that he/she loves you back, then don’t stop. But it is still important to hear the question answered by your ex. And look into your ex’s eyes and body language to support those sweet words.
You don’t have to wait for your ex to come calling. There’s no reason why you can’t be the one to make the first move and get your ex boyfriend back after cheating has ransacked your relationship. Also published at Is Getting Back With Your Cheating Ex Worth Another Try?.
