Let us face it, even those couples that enjoy a wonderful bond with each other spend more waking time apart from each other, working separate jobs, rather than they spend with one another. Of course, the exception would be those lucky lovebirds who work in the same company, but truth be told, the
That is why everyone loves company parties: coworkers get the chance to see the spouses or dates of everyone else. All too often we see, whether by design or inadvertently, what goes on behind closed doors – the seemingly humorless manager is actually a cuckold whose wife keeps nagging him about that damned football he keeps watching every Monday night, while the diminutive, pedantic-looking file clerk with eyeglasses is actually a ravenous tigress underneath the sheets, as per her hunky beau you met just the other night.
Closeness with your partner can be deepened by taking the time to share your daily activities. All too often we make the incorrect assumptions that our husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends couldn’t give a whit about what happens in the office. Au contraire, mon ami – loving somebody means wanting to be involved in every facet of their lives. We want to be like the proverbial “fly on the wall”, a seemingly evanescent presence as our partner goes about his or her daily routine at the workplace. As a partner, we should ideally be wanting and yearning to be in on the latest workplace scuttlebutt, we want to analyse certain situations as our partners would, and the appearance of our partners’ co-workers should have us piqued in some way, shape or form.
Thirty minutes to recap the day (at work) that was – perhaps that’s what you and your partner really need. Pass along jokes and anything unusual that occurred. If your office protocol allows you to use email for personal use, then hesitate not to forward that amusing convo you had with your work mate, because it just might make his or her day and make him/her feel as if they were indeed at the office with you.
If your days are filled with meetings, print out your calendar and show it to your spouse, briefly highlighting each meeting that occurred. If your job entails that you answer calls from customers, take note of those calls that put a smile on your face…or touched you in a profoundly indescribable way. And of course, if you work a blue-collar job on the production floor, always be alert because you just might home in on some interesting conversation to share.
So often, we only mention the negative aspects of work job, bitching to our mate about a difficult supervisor or a lazy coworker. It might make even more sense to see the work-related glass as half-full rather than half-empty. Positivity can go a long, long way, especially if you consider that it could totally reprogramme your thinking about how the relationship is going – instead of going on divergent paths and focusing on each other’s particular activities as the relationship drifts apart, you just might be brought closer to one another.
Even if you or your partner may be disabled, retired or working from home, that still doesn’t mean something brilliant didn’t happen in the past few hours – whilst apart, you want to keep those lines of communication open and show interest in each other’s day-to-day lives!
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