When faced with a life of turmoil it becomes almost impossible to consider that it can be any different. Furthermore, during the turmoil, a life of inner calm seems unattainable. The turmoil could be due to financial problems. It might be as a result of abuse. Being overworked. Drug induced. Caus
Children might have become unmanageable. You could be in an unwanted relationship. Separated from a partner due to any number of reasons. It could be a separation due to work. You might not know which way to turn. Or what to do about it. You might be unemployed. You might have retired but don’t know what to do with all the free time you have.
As can be seen from the aforementioned it might be a variety of things causing the turmoil. You might even be contemplating or be on the verge of suicide due to the extent of the continued turmoil. And not to minimize the situation, it might seem that nothing can be done about the turmoil. Although it might seem that the situation is extreme: what would you say to: YOU CAN DO something about the turmoil, even if it’s unrelenting?
Here is how! Whenever we find ourselves in any position, it doesn’t matter what situation or what caused it or how we got there, we need to reflect on this: do we play any role in creating the turmoil? Yes, we certainly do!
We can of course say no, we don’t. We can even be dumbfounded by it being suggested that we consider having played a role in creating the turmoil. No matter what, we in fact play a role in all that happens to us. Subconsciously we even wish turmoil on ourselves. Even harsher things, like pain or disaster! How do we do this?
Consider this. Our body breathes, walks, sees and hears. Take sports people: look at what they’re capable of doing and all at once. Our beings can be seen as super computers processing many things at the same time. In taking this a step further, our brains are powerful organisms, to the extent of processing tens of thousands or even millions of instructions at the same time. Some of those even automatically. We’re unaware of this happening. And we do not need to tell our brains what the instructions are. It knows where to send what instruction.
When our being malfunctions, it still processes the instructions, and at lightning speed. To the extent that we are oblivious to what is going on behind the scenes. When our confidence is low or down, or our self-esteem got knocked throughout our life, large or small knocks, intermittent or continuous knocks, our being is not functioning as it can. Our lives become stinted. The energy flow is stinted. We do not think straight. We get into a mode of self-preservation. We do things not to live naturally but to self-preserve. Our organism makes those decisions at lightning speed as self-preservation. Thus to protect. Those decisions aren’t of us creating, instead they are of us destroying.
Why? Our organism is programmed from a young age to protect us as a result of the knocks we sustained. We’ll continue protecting ourselves until we see our ways. Why does protecting ourselves destroy? Because there is nothing to protect. The knocks we receive are not a reflection of what or who we are. We played a nasty on ourselves. We firmly believe we need to protect. The need for protecting means we do not we feel we’re worthy in our own right. Yet we are. By being in protection mode we are not being ourselves. We break ourselves down. We are responsible for our knocked self-esteem in this way, automatically.
Therefore the root cause of our turmoil is that our self-esteem is low and we do not feel secure in our own right. We thus protect. When on a self-uncovering journey, we uncover these dynamics so you can see where and how they fit into your life. Once seen, and you decide enough is enough; you can stop continuing the pattern.
Living your optimal life is about you living without protecting, without wanting to disprove, just living naturally, and your energy starts flowing unhindered and unstinted. You start living your beauty. You go into creation mode. Where you create with your life. Not protect -not destroy- you see your beauty, and live that – and you’re not ruled by your knocked self-esteem.
Emmanuel van der Meulen is personal coach. He can help you with overcoming your fears. Request your free optimal life newsletter.
